new outlook

I just returned from a short trip and tried to catch up on some of the comments on the web site. I am still amazed that people view my post as insightful because most of them are written when I need to air my frustrations. When you get old, you review your past life including what you tried to accomplish and what little that you did accomplished. You wish you could correct your mistakes and do more than you could humanly ever do.
Since starting this dream of a group home and working to see its first resident move in, I have meet or talked to a number of parents with children with different levels of autism. We all have the same desires and dreams for our children, yet we lack a sure fire solution of how to obtain those dreams. I think that is why people think my post are interesting enough to read. Maybe, the post make them see part of themselves in them. We all are different yet so much alike.
When I started writing these post, I was hoping to inform and help parents find answers to questions about autism that when my daughter was young that I didn’t know where to turn. I will still try to do that but I am sure by now everyone who reads my post knows that I am not that well versed in all that is autism. But I think people need to see that others feel the same as they do. The frustration, the ups and downs and the feeling of somehow not being able of doing enough, in other words the feeling that we are failing our child. I am leaving the technical aspects of autism to the professionals.
Parents, with school resuming soon, please fight for the right kind of teacher for your child because NO ONE program fits every child. Our kids need people in their lives that care for them and that are willing to do whatever it takes to make them feel loved and worth something. SELF WORTH is a strong need for all of us, we all need a purpose in life. Look in their eyes when they accomplished a task and you will see the world in a new light. That look should be in ALL of our eyes, it is a wonderful sparkle that should never be lost, it lights up the heart.

Just me venting

I guess it’s time to write again especially after everything that is happening in this country and every where else. What has happened that has caused some people to miss out on what is important in life? Color,nationality,religion or status should not be how we view each other. We all are individuals and as such contribute something that is real and worth something, we NEED EACH OTHER.
When we watch small children play,there is no hatred and no prejudice just friendship and caring. What happens between childhood and adulthood? I have watched children and admired their simplicity and their willingness to accept each other without reservations. They could teach each and everyone of us how to live a simple and rewarding life that would benefit everyone. I hate hearing that a certain race’s life matters because EVERY life should matter to everyone. We need to revert back to our childhood and carry that respect and love for each other into our adult life. My life has been enriched by many people from all walks of life and disabilities and I cherish everything they shared with me. PLEASE look into the other person’s eyes and see them as a reflection of yourself and treat them as you would want to be treated.
My daughter went with me to one of my VA doctor appointments and as we were getting off the freeway their was a pregnant young women with a sign asking for money. She told me that we should help her but I felt that I should explain that some people do this as a living and that this women might be taking advantage of her. Her response was that she didn’t care because she didn’t want to think that she could be helping someone and didn’t, just because the women might be a fraud. She felt good giving every dollar she had and she made me proud of her because of how she felt.
People, we all can change and become a better person just by becoming child like again. A person’s worth is not how much you acquire in life or how far up the social latter you get. It’s that small piece of yourself that you leave behind in this world that is important, just make sure that small piece is worth leaving behind.